By Shivani Naghnoor
It is normal to get angry because of the many responsibilities to bear, there is the task to manage family and work life. The need to multi-task is what causes stress and anger. Anybody is prone to get angry, even individuals who are retired and well settled. Infants display anger because of pain, frustration, or discomfort and even animals show anger.
Anger is a normal emotion, it is a response to something negative or troubling, for example, while in traffic, someone may honk for no reason or try to overtake, disturbing your mental peace and this will cause you to react and show anger. Another example would be getting a call about paying a bill that has already been paid. You are now likely to get angry which is a normal reaction.
It is important to not treat anger as just a condition there are side effects to anger:
High levels of stress and anger increases the risk of high blood pressure, insomnia, low immunity, diabetes, and heart disease.
Chronic anger affects mental health it has a negative effect on thinking and concentration and a person is likely to suffer from depression and anxiety and other mental health issues.
When a person is angry all the time, he focuses on the anger emotion most of the time, leaving little space to emphasize on career and relationships.
It is not an easy feeling for an individual to have anger issues at most times, but it can be managed
Don’t suppress anger:
It is important to understand that it is normal to feel angry, and it is essential to know that you don’t have to suppress it. Suppressing anger causes the release of stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline and it increases risk of cardiovascular disease. Instead, find healthy ways to express anger such as write about your anger emotion, you can even express your anger through sketching, and art-work. Release your feelings you will feel better and get a better perspective of your anger.
Analyze the emotion behind your anger:
Most people are not comfortable with getting angry, for whatever reason whether big or small, you don’t have to feel uncomfortable. Find out what is causing you to feel angry and the emotion behind it. You may be anxious or depressed about something, or concerned about your professional life. Think about the emotion you are feeling and analyse what about it is causing anger. For example, you may be stressed about work, but get angry with people at home. Find out what about work is stressing you out and attach a positive phrase to the situation such as I will do the best I can to handle the situation and aim to have a positive mindset.
Identify the situations that cause anger:
Some situations that trigger anger such as:
Dealing with someone with a different opinion than yours
Being around people who don’t appreciate you for who you are
Not getting enough work done for the day
Not getting the deserved promotion, and so on.
A person who is taking on a lot of responsibilities is also quick to anger because of stress. It is important to identify the situation that is causing anger and gradually work on having a calm and positive mindset. For example: If you are stuck in traffic often, think of it as something that is not in your control. If someone does not trust your judgement think of it as this is the best you can do.
Don’t be too harsh on yourself:
It is normal to get angry at certain times because we are probably taking on a lot of responsibilities. If you felt you got angry for no reason, don’t be too harsh on yourself, reflect on the occasion and think about what made you angry, you are likely to change your perspective about the situation.
Do not judge and offer support:
If you notice someone getting angry often, do not judge, give them space, and offer support. Give them time to open up and share feelings.